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Barbara Vhengedza From My Heart
FROM My Heart is a platform created for you to share your issues and get practical assistance. Together we can create brighter lives and happier people, transforming mindsets one day at a time. Send your heart to heart message to Tete Barbara and read her responses.
Dear Tete
My daughter is married to a man who beats her. She refuses to leave him and there is nothing more I can do as a mother. My issue with my in-law is that he owes me my cow. It was and part of the bride price. He has since paid for everything else, but never gave me my cow. I want it before I die. I do not want to curse my son-in-law for non-payment of the cow. These men like paying after the rightful owner has died.
Tete Responds:
Your son-in-law must give you your cow as agreed. However, you should follow respectable methods of inquiring on the matter. Consult your elders and allow them to send word to your in-laws. They should respond when they have consulted their son. Perhaps, he has forgotten or maybe he is facing financial constraints. Your people should also take the opportunity to remind and caution your “mukwasha”. Make him know that you are aware of how he is treating your daughter and that you are not happy. You need to be there for your daughter. Her life and happiness is more important than getting a cow.
All the Best.
