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DEAR DEIDRE
I HAD sex with my boss at my work Christmas party last week. I want to confess to my boyfriend because it feels like the right thing to do.
I’ve got a brilliant job working for a department store.
They’re giving me really great training and it’s all looking good or it was until last Saturday night.
My boss is a young 31, ten years older than me. He’s a really nice guy who’s been giving me loads of support with the job. He’s really fit too, I should say.
Christmas came early for us, as it does every year for the store. We are rushed off our feet as the big day gets near.
The party was held in a hotel out of town and my boss had a room, as they were having management meetings next day.
He looked so hot in his suit and bow tie.
I’d soon downed a couple of drinks and put out of my mind the fact that he’s already married and that I have a boyfriend at home. The dance-floor was empty at first so my boss said we needed to get people moving.
He pulled me up from my seat and we danced for a bit, then had more to drink, and so it went on for a couple of hours. Then he said he needed a breather outside.
We went out on the terrace. He pulled me towards him and kissed me, all loving and sweet, and then led me to the lift and on up to his room for a “rest”.
He poured us champagne and we cuddled and kissed, and then had sex in the big double bed. It was great.
I made it downstairs in time to get my taxi back to town with the others who live near me.
My boyfriend suspected nothing, but I’m now riddled with guilt.
I’ve been with my fella for four years and love him a lot. I want to confess what I did but my friend says that would ruin his Christmas and he might even finish with me.
DEIDRE SAYS:
That sounds like good advice. You might feel better at first if you tell him the truth but you’d hurt him a lot and his trust in you could well be damaged for good.
I’m wondering though, what made you cheat if you love him so much? Has the magic worn thin?
Is he still the one you want to be with or is he now more of a habit to you?
We all change a lot as we move from our teens to our twenties and our feelings can often change too.
If you are bored in your relationship, don’t go looking for love with your boss. Apart from the fact that he is married, that’s a good way to mess up your future career.
You may think he’s a really nice guy but he crossed a line here. Make up your mind it won’t happen again and let him know it too.
