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HE hold back the MONEY; You hold back the SEX! Who wins and is it worth it? Are we adults or kids?
Hello there folks, how are you all this year? Hope 2017 has started on a good note for you all. Well, as you can see I am starting with straight talk this year. I want us to be honest and serious with each other.
Relationships are not a game and if you cannot handle a relationship maturely, then it is best you don’t get into one until you are mature. It is not a game. And sadly this is what many couples are doing in their relationship, they are playing games and no one wins in the end.
What people do not know is that if you play the vengeance game, it may make you happy seeing the other person’s reaction when you take revenge. But revenge is not sustainable, and eventually the other person will also take revenge, and then the silly childish games continue.
But in the end, not just one person loses, but all of you do when the marriage or relationship ends. Kids suffer, the woman suffers, the man suffers, their families suffer, their friends suffer and everyone who was a part of their lives as a couple are affected. How selfish you are!
I am serious people. Take a look at the topic of our conversation this week. The man refuses to give his wife adequate money. In fact, he gives her just enough or less only for things that benefit him and the family as a whole (if that), but not a dollar more. At time she will get mad and seek vengeance on him.
The one thing she has that he needs is intimacy, so she holds back making hundreds of excuses each time he wants it. He only gets intimacy when he gives her money. So the marriage becomes a marriage of two people prostituting each other; the one prostituting their money for intimacy and the other prostituting their intimacy for money.
Problem is this is not sustainable because the man starts to resent having to pay his wife for intimacy when he had already paid a bride price for her and therefore believes it is his right to have intimacy whenever he needs it within reason (the law supports him in that).
If he does not get it, he will find an alternative which is usually to pay someone else for intimacy either a professional sex worker or a mistress who will all be glad to indulge his every wish without complaining. At this juncture I will ask you all, who are all these shenanigans benefiting? Is it beneficial and to whom?
Then on the other side when the woman realises she is not winning and no matter what she does the man continues to hold back his money and or have sex elsewhere, she then makes another plan or two.
Some women suffer the cost of these moves when their men get fed-up and start physically beating them. This is sad, but it happens.
Now the police get involved, because two people cannot work things out. She may decide she is going to find other means of making money, which means the kids start getting neglected because both parents are now not at home enough.
She may take the easier route and find another man to support her financially on the side, as in a secret boyfriend (trust me men, women hide their affairs better than men). Now you have read in this very paper about women who are marrying or having relationships with two husbands… what’s that? That’s women showing men they can do just as well as them.
Hameno! But this game you are all playing hazvisi bho! What then are the kids learning from you. Because Kids do what you do and not what you say. Boys are learning how to beat their future wives instead of protect them.
Boys learn to sting their wives money not realising that this is the very woman who is meant to build your castle so that you can be king. If you give her nothing to build with, you will have no substance in your home, in the way of a relationship.
I love you all, until next week, God bless!
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