The ManicaPost
Dear Tete Barbara
I am a 36-year-old unemployed mother of four. In March last year my husband suggested that we sell our house of 11 years so as to buy one that is smaller and use the other part to start a business.
I agreed, but things changed after the sale of the house. Until today, I do not know what happened to the money that came from that sale and now we are renting a small cottage. My husband used to tell me everything, we planned and discussed everything together but not anymore.
When I confronted my husband he simply reacted by telling me that I was a useless woman and that he wants to leave me for a better and more intelligent woman.
At times he goes away for days to an unknown destination. I regret not finishing school because now I cannot reject him because I have nothing.. Where will I go and how will I manage without a job or parents?
Tete Barbara Responds
Sister, don’t give up yet, the sun is still shining. Do not lose hope for yourself or your children for as long as you are breathing there is a way just have the will.
It is highly important that you stop crying over spilt milk and accept the fact that you and your husband made a decision that did not go as planned.
It is unfortunate though that he has not come back to explain what happened and this is a situation that could get any person seriously worried. Perhaps he made a bad investment, lost all the money and his ego won’t allow him to admit it. However, as a mother you have to secure the future of your children. Speak to your husband, be frank in asking him what happened to the money and what the new plan is.
Share your concerns with him but if that hits a brick wall it might be time for an intervention with someone close, fair and trustworthy. It is sad that your husband has turned to insulting you instead of comforting and working with you.
Find a skill you can learn or a small income generating project that can give you and your family some financial relief. If the situation continues as is you may need to find out what your legal options are. It’s not over until it’s over.
All the best!
