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Ann Ruthenburg Fashion
HELLO gentle readers.
This week our focus is the question “Who am I and does my dressing and attitude reflecting that?”
The answer is a big no!
Why? Simple, the last couple of months stretched me beyond my limits. I had to deal with so much nonsense around me, work, friendships, relationships, home, church, health and of course myself.
I would wake up each morning and wear whatever my hands found, I would put whatever on my face and since I love ponytails and pigtails — so with that — no “nyaya” there. That has been my signature hairstyle for months.
But, as a professional person, I need to reflect that when I am at work. At home I like to relax and be free, so I need to also have clothing that match that.
But my wardrobe currently reflects someone else . . . one who shopped for the sake of it, not for the joy of it.
I am glad to say I have overcome it all, even though the trials and tribulations I went through show on my outside. I have no doubt that I am not the only one out there. So let’s talk!
If I come to your home today and looked in your wardrobe, would you be happy with what I will find in there?
What you are wearing today or how do you look like today?
Would you say it is a good reflection of a positive or negative person?
Are people seeing your pain, trials and tribulations all over you from head to toe?
When I meet you and before you open your mouth, what are you physically communicating to me?
You see the truth is no one really wants to know what you are going through, seriously.
Everyone in the world is going through their own troubles, be it finances, relationships, marriage, kids, accommodation, debt, illness, death and business etc.
So wearing your pain on the outside for the world to see makes no sense at all.
I might be sounding cold or cruel, but when you go through what I have gone through in the last 10 years, you wake up one day realising only you and God can change your circumstances. Nobody else can. So I might as well put my best face forward and keep my nyaya among those I trust.
A student came looking for attachment this other day dressed like they were struggling.
Inasmuch as I had pity for her, I told her I cannot hire her as she was because I was not inspired she will be able to faithfully perform the job.
She looked like her private life had overtaken her thought process. The next day she came dressed for the interview. She now works for me and is doing a splendid job.
Now how many people have lost out on things in life simply because they looked like they could not handle it?
What point am I trying to make?
Simple — 2018 was a hard year for many, but not all, so do not neglect the true you because of what life threw at you.
Start off by getting your thinking right. Think positively from this moment till the end of 2019. The year is upon you, good things will happen to you, I promise.
This weekend, remove everything from your wardrobe and take time to try each and every item. Make three piles around the room — one for clothes you still want; secondly for clothes you definitely do not want; and thirdly clothes you need.
Yes “want” and “need” are two totally different things. Most of us want something because we like it, but we do not need it. I bought three denims the other day because they were cheap. But I have only worn one that I needed. What a waste of space in my wardrobe and money.
Get my point? So after trying each item, place them on the relevant pile.
When all your clothes are finished, remove the clothes in your “don’t want” pile and place them in a plastic bag or bags and give them away to someone who needs then.
Then go to the “want” pile. Retry all of them again and ask yourself if you really need them and why? Those you need, place them on the need pile.
When you are done, place the “want” pile in a bag and put them with the “don’t need” pile or pack them away somewhere.
Trust me by end of 2019 you will realise you did not actually need those clothes and you will end up giving them away.
Now the final pile is the “need” pile. Put those clothes neatly back into the cupboard. It is based on those clothes you will re-build your 2019 wardrobe with. Then what? Nothing! I will walk you through building your new wardrobe in January 2019.
This Christmas enjoy going round the community or the underprivileged, blessing people with the clothes you no longer need.
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