The ManicaPost
Dear Tete
My story is a long one and will need a whole day to tell. In short, my mother was deserted by my father who accused her of cheating. My father died last year believing that I was a child born between my mother and his brother.
I never knew the love of my father and I was accused of being a cursed child. I am now 38, married with two sons. I still wonder why my father could have suspected my mum of infidelity and not anything else. Perhaps she was unfaithful and he was right in dumping her. I feel that she was responsible to certain extent and that she owes me an explanation.
Tete Barbara Responds:
Brother, your situation is not a rare one. In our society, broken father child relationships have become an almost daily dilemma visible to the eye. You are a father now, be that to your children. Your children must not lack what you lacked in your relationship with your dad. I would also like to advise you to take time to speak to mum about the issues that trouble you.
Where two people have a misunderstanding, much is said. A child is caught up in unnecessary drama that ruins their views if certain figures in life. Please, find a professional counsellor to help you reconcile your feelings.
The internal conflict within you is not one you should be living with at all. Unfortunately your father is no longer in the picture to answer for himself, but time is still there for you to heal your wounds and reach out to your mother.
Time will heal you.
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