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DEAR DEIDRE: I KEEP cheating on my wife because I just don’t find her sexy any more. I’m a 42-year-old guy and work as the photographer for a clothes catalogue.
The kids are great fun to work with but it is the plus-size models who are my favourites. They are all happy in their own skin.
My wife is 38 and she got a brilliant job with a weight-loss company but it has gone to her head. She markets the company and now she is become obsessed with the gym.
OK, she is thin but she looks gaunt and now her body is rock-hard. Her six-pack is better than mine and it is just a big turn-off for me. When she has free time she is in the gym.
My wife also watches what we both eat.
She will never eat out any more and our sex life is rubbish because she gets into bed and reads her fitness magazines.
I got chatting to one of the models who was over from Scandinavia. She was 32, big and beautiful and I found her mesmerising.
I paid her a few compliments and she invited me to her hotel for a drink.
One drink turned into a few and we ended up going up to her room. She suggested we have sex and her body was incredible, curves in the right places and so silky soft to touch.
She was every bit a woman as she was meant to be. I felt guilty about it but I knew my wife would not find out.
I ended up in bed with a model who is 27 this week. She was offering it to me on a plate. Again, her body was soft and enticing and the sex was out of this world.
I know it is wrong. How can I get my marriage back on track and feel attracted to my wife again?
DEIDRE SAYS: A good relationship is not just about physical attraction, it is about attraction to somebody’s personality, wanting to be with them and communication too.
Your relationship has drifted, perhaps because of your wife’s obsession with her weight and the gym but maybe she thought she was doing it for you as well as herself.
There is a lot of social pressure to be thin these days. Talk about your relationship, explain
that you feel that her spending so long in the gym is damaging your marriage.
Tell her that you want to inject some spark into what you have lost, revive some date nights and be sure you make time for each other.
A night out once a week is not going to harm her healthy regime even if you do go for a meal together.
Remember why you fell in love. Tell her what you loved about her then and what you love about her now. Make her feel good.
DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is driving a wedge between my daughter and me with her outrageous lies.
We did not have an easy marriage. She had a good job but made me pay for everything. She would argue with me and lash out sometimes. She told my daughter I was sacked from my job because I was stealing when actually I was made redundant.
She also told my daughter I had tried to kidnap her when we went to Spain to visit my sister, with my ex’s permission, of course.
My daughter is now 12. I was taking her to a concert for her birthday.
On the way there we argued about her having a new phone and she shouted, “Stop the car. If you do not take me home, I will call Grandad and tell him you are kidnapping me like before.” I am a good dad and terrified I am losing my daughter.
DEIDRE SAYS: Be careful not to escalate the antagonism. Call your ex, be friendly but say it is damaging for your daughter if you two are not in accord .— thesun.co.uk.
