Barbara Vhengedza From My Heart
I am broken right inside my heart so much that I feel like just locking my doors to cry all day. My brother, whom I trusted with everything raped my daughter and I am shattered. I think I saw the signs, but chose not to act on them. This is a case I will not report, but I have cut all ties with my brother. My daughter and I agreed that we will not report him to the police because of our personal reasons. My brother was a drunkard who often fondled my maids’ breasts and once my daughter’s buttocks, but I ignored the moves. Yes, I have sent him away, but my daughter has to live with this for life because I ignored the matter. How do I get over this guilt?
My dear, you must report this incident because you will most likely regret not doing it at all. Right now not reporting it may seem to be a wise decision as you both are battling to move away from this predicament. In the long run your decision may come back to haunt you, so please think deep and long about your position.
Parents always carry burdens when it comes to making choices concerning their offspring and so you are no exception. Mistakes are a part of learning! You ignored a few red flags perhaps because you allowed your love for a sibling cloud your judgment as a parent . . . lesson learnt. Move on with the help of a professional counsellor, grow and thrive.